Most people assume resolutions and goals are one in the same but they are not.  A goal is something you set.  It’s an experience you decide you would like to have by a certain time that you work toward accomplishing. Resolutions on the other hand are what you are willing to do in order to accomplish your goals. It means you are willing to give up something that doesn’t serve you, learn something new, and grow beyond where you initially believe you can go. 

The Ten Steps Toward Making New Year’s Resolutions and Accomplishing Them is listed below.  These steps are defined under the four aspects of your personal human experience – mental, emotional, physical and spiritual.  Total growth is determined by becoming clear of what your goals are first; making it easier to become aware of what your resolutions should be.  Then once you become aware of the appropriate resolutions to make, taking steps toward doing and keeping them becomes a focus which allows you to transform, aiding in reaching your goals.

 MENTAL ASPECT:

  1. Make a list of your goals – Write them down and be sure to include:
    1. Each goal in full detail
    2. Decide when you plan to accomplish it
    3. Determine the smaller goals within the larger goal (ie: larger goal…having financial freedom. Smaller goal…starting a business. Smaller goal…putting into place each part of building the business foundation.)
  2. Believe you can accomplish your goals within the time frame you set – Do this by:
    1. Creating affirmations (ie: ‘I am a successful business owner always operating in the black!’ or ‘I experience financial freedom at all times because of my successful business!’)
    2. Say your affirmations like mantras. Repeat them over and over in your head, out loud, several times a day.  When you have doubtful, uncertain, negative or counter-intuitive thoughts say one or more affirmations consistently for several minutes or even hours.  Let it flow in your mind repeatedly.
    3. When you completely believe you can reach your goals or that your goals are seemingly accomplished, that is when you have certain belief that your GOALS HAVE BEEN REACHED.
  3. Determine the resolutions required to reach your goals – Begin focusing on:
    1. What your habits and patterns are – mental chatter & belief systems not serving you, emotional feelings that continue to arise, and physical patterns and addictions.
    2. Make a complete list. It may take several days or even weeks to do, but the more you pay attention to what they are the deeper the transformation and your goals will be met.
    3. Here are examples of habits and patterns: Thoughts of not having enough money, speaking it too; such as “I’m broke”, “I can’t afford it”, or believing your stupid. Feelings of lethargy, quick to anger, being stressed out, or feeling guilty.  Physical habits of not interacting with others, being a couch potato or playing video games for hours and hours and hours at a time, not being able to relax and always puttering around, etc.

 EMOTIONAL ASPECT

  1. Pay attention to how you feel as you move toward your goals – If you do not having feelings of exhilaration, anticipated excitement, happiness, or joyfulness at each step of moving toward your goals, identify them.  Know there is something deeper at your core, which is robbing you of the opportunity to accomplish what you desire.
  2. Release core emotional feelings – Here are two ways to do that…
    1. EFT – Emotional Frequency Tapping – Tapping can be used for anything. Used to release resistance and fear will help you move into emotional resolve to accomplish your goals.  Here are guidelines on exactly how to do the EFT exercise: Tapping Guidelines and Instructions  
    2. Timeline – Create a timeline from birth all the way to the age you are now with only those major experiences that made you feel invalidated, not loved, unworthy and all around less than… Once you have completed the timeline start with the most recent incident, put your attention on it and then begin to release it by following this guided meditation:
  3. Replace hurtful feelings with ones that feel good – This is done by:
    1. Associating a great feeling you had with a memory like a place where you enjoyed the time of your life, or when you received your first paycheck or the sweetness of your first romantic kiss.
    2. Doing something that feels uplifting such as getting together with great friends, or having dinner at your favorite restaurant, or watching a comedy that keeps you laughing throughout the entire picture.

PHYSICAL ASPECT

  1. Tame the tongue – Focusing on what you say and how you say is like speaking a prayer for or against yourself. Pay attention to these four levels of communication and one-by-one decide to stop doing them:
    1. Gossiping – talking about others in a judgmental / negative way.
    2. Complaining – being perpetually unhappy about where you are, who you’re with, what you’re doing much of the time.
    3. Criticizing – the perspective that something is wrong with everyone and everything.
    4. Judging – people, situations and circumstances aren’t the way you think they should be. It’s the belief something is wrong with whatever there is.
  2. Shift your perspective – Practice changing how you see yourself and the world. Connect with the various ways your goals are more than possible; because they are probable for being accomplished. Physically change your perspective to help shift your inner perspective by trying these things:
    1. Stand on a table and observe the room from your new height
    2. Lie on the ground outside and look up at the sky notice the cloud formations
    3. Stand on your head in a corner of the room and look at it from that eye level
    4. Sit down, then stand up, then sit down, then stand up paying attention to how the room changes and if you notice anything in the room that you didn’t notice in your sitting or standing position from before.
  3. Replace your physical habits/addictions – As you become aware of habits and addictions that do not serve you, replace them with ones that do. Examples:
    1. Replace drinking with meditation.
    2. Replace electronic devices when not absolutely needed at the time with reading. material that helps you grow and learn.
    3. Replace yelling when stressed with a hot bath.

SPIRITUAL ASPECT

  1. Daily Meditation
    1. Incorporate the practice of meditation to connect with your inner self. Follow some of these guided meditations offered through Center of Light Miracles. There is a new meditation focus each week.  Sign up for it here:   http://centeroflightmiracles.org/wp/courses/morning-miracle-meditation/
    2. Do EMOTIONIZING exercises. Here is how this exercise is done… Look at one goal, a smaller goal which is part of the larger overall goal. Envision it in your mind’s eye, fully and completely. As you see it, begin to feel the full essence of having it, experiencing it with all your senses – visually, audibly, kinesthetically. Keep your focus on it for a minimum of 30 seconds then KNOW it is accomplished [not might be, will be or could be]. Your feeling nature brings it into the physical world because it is born from your soul.

Your goals are only a few resolutions away.  Put your attention on them and you will succeed in experiencing your real desires.