Oh, how complicated relationships can be. I’m sure you may have a relationship or two that could be explained that way. Perhaps with a parent, a spouse or partner, maybe a sibling or best friend? Well, the truth is, from a spiritual perspective there are only two types of relationships; the Divine Love – unconditional ones and the Human Love – conditional relationships. Guess which one becomes complicated – and you only get one guess. Before I can go into the essence of divine relationships, as if it needed explanation, I’m going to discuss the other type of relationships, the more convoluted kind.In all honesty it doesn’t matter what type of relationship you’re in, what matters is the type of relationship it is. A Human Love – conditional relationship is one that always has strings attached. It doesn’t matter if it’s a parent – child relationship, spousal / partner relationship, employer – employee, siblings or any other type of relationships the strings can run long or short, nevertheless conditions are placed for the price of love. You’re taught early on that if you do what our parents want you’re rewarded and when you don’t do as they desire you may be punished. Of course it’s not always expressed in those terms (although with some families it is) but the message is received loud and clear – IF YOU DO WHAT I SAY I WILL LOVE YOU MORE; AND IF YOU DON’T I WON’T LOVE YOU AT ALL! Parent actions and reactions state that over and over again. [Hint: this is where the concept of approval vs. non-approval begins and the child within every human being seeks the “love” approval.]
This is conditional love’s first experience as it echos through out your live reverberating in the way you give love and receive love from others. It may appear different from one relationship to another but human love always finds favor when someone acts like, gives like, looks like, provides like, sounds like what you want or don’t want.
In contrast Divine Love ~ unconditional relationships, provide an open heart that loves purely. It doesn’t care what you do, how you act, the way you look, how you sound or what you can do for ……. None of that matters when divine love is present. Because divine love transcends emotional needs, mental prowless and physical desires. Simply put, unconditional relationships experience a level of acceptance and approval simply because you are and they are a phenomenal person divinely created by Source. How beautiful it is to be loved and to give love that way.
Personally, if more people established relationships from the place of unconditional Divine Love there would be peace on Earth!!
Lynne Herod-DeVerges, Spiritual Mentor @ Center of Light Miracles