When contemplating relationships the first thought in most people’s minds are intimate partnerships, the connection with family members, camaraderie with co-workers and friendliness with acquaintances. These are blessed relationships with great meaning. In these examples they represent your relationship with other individuals. But they represent only one facet out of many universal relationships. In fact, the basic definition of a relationship is the interaction of energy forms with one another. Therefore a relationship can be formed between you and money; you and your physical health; you and time; you and technology; you and your pet; or you and any other energy form that can be related to. In other words, the essence of being able to relate to anyone or anything is based on how your energy with the other energy is able to flow. In some instances the way energy flows between you and something/someone else is based on your belief about what you’re relating to, or what you feel about the other energy form. Your flow of energy with another energy form may be dependent on established patterns in the way you act or react to that energy.
In a healthy relationship it is the connection between energies which flows in an effortless direction toward a successful conclusion that makes it powerful. For example; if the flow of energy between you and your pet is playful, loyal and compassionate you experience joy. In this example you feel love and when you think of your pet it’s with affection. The healthy relationship between you two creates an energetic dynamic that allows your energy field to be elevated and your heart to remain open to the essence of all universal energy, which is love.
Here’s another example of a different type of healthy relationship. If you maintain respect, trust, ease and love for money then you and money will flow together in a partnership that allows money to stay by your side always. Now I’m sure you’re wondering what I’m referring to when I say respect, trust, ease and love for money. To begin with each of these adjectives are forms of energy. Secondly, you are energy just as money is energy. The flow of energy between you and money, to be in a healthy relationship, involves the elements just mentioned. When you respect money you do not use it up. You understand its actual use as an exchange between you and another form of energy you desire. So, to respect its use means to respect the fact that money has a natural flow of coming in and going out – nothing more, nothing less. And when you respect the money that comes in you should honor it by multiplying more of it. In this way, money will always be with you. To have trust with money means to trust it will always be there for you, when you enthusiastically welcome it. Realizing your beliefs about money, your feelings about having it around and what it truly represents to you, will determine the extent of how you trust money to always be there for you. The ease of money is simply allowing money to show up in the various ways it chooses to. Such as through your job, an inheritance, a gift, an investment, found on the ground or any other way money flows to you. Being open to this also requires trust. Having love for money is an energy which most significantly is a way for you to engage in a healthy relationship with it. To love money means you are in gratitude for it, you experience unconditional love for it; again when it goes out and comes in. You nurture money by investing, saving and allowing it to multiply itself. And, when you forgive money by not feeling angry, frustrated or stressed when it’s not there, you are giving it love. Any foundation belief systems, feelings, and past experiences around respecting, trusting, loving and having ease with money could be what creates a healthy relationship with it or an unhealthy one.
From the aforementioned examples, of the power of healthy relationships, they are miniscule in scope to how everything you interact with is a relationship. The relationships you forge in life are either healthy in their flow (allowing for much desired results) or unhealthy; only in that the relationship is something you do not desire – but can learn from. What you can gain from the unhealthy relationships are lessons that motivate you to connect with your real self. In the pursuit of your true spiritual essence lie the secrets you learn to experience healthy relationships. It is the real power of healthy relationships that inspire you to rise to the truth of who you are and to live always from a miraculous place! So, here are two major ways to begin the process of experiencing The Power of Creating Healthy Relationships:
- First, Identify a Relationship and Then Write Out:
- The relationship you desire to be healthier than it is now.
- What the success of a healthy relationship with the other energy looks like. In other words how will the relationship flow optimally for you.
- Describe what the relationship is actually like. Are you acting restrictive, fearful, controlling, resistant or any other way toward that energy?
- Regardless of what the energy flow is now, ask yourself; “Why is it that way? Why am I like this with…?”
- Second, Take Action to Shift The Energy Flow of the Relationship:
- Visualize daily, for 5 uninterrupted minutes, how you desire the relationship to be.
- Clear the energy you have identified as blocking a desired flow in the relationship – This can be done through a daily 20 minute meditation.
- Change your beliefs by the use of repetitious affirmations. Begin with affirmations you can ‘kinda’ believe without doubt until you know they are true. Then do a deeper level affirmation associated with the same belief system you are shifting.
- Change your actions (example: literally create the space for a different energy to be welcomed; be in gratitude even for the undesired things; perform an opposite action to the one always taken, etc.)
Focus on only one type of relationship at a time. Once you have accomplished that healthy one you can move on to others. But here’s a hint; when you begin with one type of relationship.
Lynne Herod-DeVerges, founder of Center of Light Miracles http://ask-lynne.org/lynnesmiracles/